Mar 22, 2010

Draupadi


Mahabharat has been my favourite epic since forever. There is so much drama in it. And such solid grounding in reality nevertheless. The present-day-relevance is pretty hard to miss. And I guess the nature of the epic is such, that it can be interpreted for all times. Ageless. B.R.Chopra’s television series made it more accessible to an entire generation. Arjun, Bheeshma, Kunti, Duryodhan and Shakuni became household names thanks to the immensely popular series. I was mesmerised by it as a child. Smitten by the fancy bows-n-arrows and the now-gaudy costumes. Back then Draupadi was without doubt, a major character. But surprisingly, I had never given her much thought. I considered Arjun to be a loving husband. I saw Bheem as a noble person for bringing her blood from Dushasan’s thigh to quench her thirst of revenge. I knew she had been ‘apamaanit’. But never really felt for her.

Then I read this book by Chitra Banerjee Divakaruni – Palace of Illusions, which brought the queen of Indraprastha to the forefront of my consciousness. The book is a piece of fiction based on another – the Mahabharat. Reading it is like seeing the Mahabharat upside-down! It presents Drauapadi’s point of view (a vantage point for looking at the way the Great War unfolded). Gives voice to her angst, her pain. And the best part is it does not reduce her to a mere victim of circumstances. It portrays her as someone who though bound by fate, makes her choices and stands by them. Who, despite losing more than she ever imagined, retains her pride and dignity. Even though she continues to commit mistakes, she is far truer about these than any of the nobler characters of the story. (Yudhishthir comes across just the way I’d always though him to be – a rule bound fool. Too ‘dharmanishtha’ for his own good.)

So, Draupadi, or Panchali, holds a special place in my heart. I think she epitomizes women, all women. Who fought odds, was humiliated, paid for others’ mistakes…but was resilient nevertheless. She is a symbol of all our stereotypes, yet manages to break the mould. Very feminine...at the same time, very in-your-face. She’s charming and brave...loving and shrewd...apprehensive and self-confident...

The author tries to convey time and again that her vengefulness marked her downfall. Perhaps it did. But what else is one supposed to do? Forgive and forget??? I think not! And that’s where the other interpretation for the great lady comes in. This play titled Draupadi – We Are So Different Now (stellar performances by Shivani Pasrich and others). It is a tale of a modern day Draupadi. Or what women today could learn from her. Visually it was very appealing. The background music was great too! The first half was quite convincing. The fierce protectiveness that she feels for Maya is quite believable. But then, Draupadi decides to forgive, to let go. I, for one, do not buy the logic. Well, for someone who has burnt for vengeance for centuries, and whose wrongdoers are long dead, it’s alright. But a woman who was raped by her own brother-in-law? To forgive him within a lifetime is quite unfathomable for me. And why should she? The play shows Maya (the other girl) as a calmer, more fulfilled person after forgiving. Before that, she was shown to be one frustrated and ever-angry woman who could think of nothing but the bad guy’s destruction. Perhaps that isn’t the best way to deal with the stuff. And perhaps, at some level, I agree with Draupadi about not letting the desire for revenge rule your existence. However, ‘forgiving’ someone who has caused you so much pain is something I can’t really digest. Why is it expected out of women to be forgiving? Is the feeling of revenge not encouraged in women for it is seen as a masculine quality? Is it only men who have the right to indulge in settling of scores?? If you have been wronged, violated...don’t sit back and forgive. It’s high time we stopped exalting practices that confirm men’s self-serving biases and make women feel inferior!

Mar 15, 2010

Unconditional love

Unconditional love – it’s quite something, isn’t it? I, for one, find it an immensely potent concept. Something which has the capability to make the most unlikely person thrive; something that I wish each person would experience in his or her lifetime. I claim to love my friends and family unconditionally. But how unconditional is this love, actually?

Is there any such thing as unconditional love? As a concept, it sounds immensely powerful. But in reality, does is even exist? Unconditional positive regard, yes, I’m willing to accept. But I have my doubts about the former. The people I claim to love unconditionally, do I really? I do love them a LOT, but that is not to say that I don’t expect anything in return. If nothing else, I expect to be loved back unconditionally. That itself negates the very basis of the concept, doesn’t it?

I was telling a friend of mine how another super-close friend had fallen almost outta touch over the last few months, when I thought I needed her the most.. And something he said struck a chord…he said..whatever happened to unconditional love? Are they just two words that have ceased to mean anything? That kinda jolted me outta my self-pitying state. Whatever she was doing or not doing…did it have to affect the way I felt for her? Does my love for her depend on anything? On the number of times we speak? On the amount of info we have about each other’s lives? Even if she never called again, would that change the fact that she has been a super friend to me always? He said I should just let her be. Maybe there are things going on in her life that do not allow her to be as much in touch as before. Does that change everything?! I don’t think so. Sometimes the most common-sense things need to be spelled out!

Mar 11, 2010

Women's Reservation Bill

I am not very well informed about all things 'political'. But as far as common sense, and my personal opinion go, I think this one-third reservation for women in the parliament is a step in the wrong direction. Shouldn't the focus be on 'empowering' women to rise to the positions of MPs and MLAs, rather than serving the opportunity on a platter?! And if our past is anything to go by, the situation's not gonna be much different from the lot of SCs, STs and OBCs! No amount of quotas have made their condition better. In fact, barring a few, they continue to languish in poverty; and if anything, their condition only worsens!

I don't see what good having 33% women in the parliament in going to do. Whatever happened to gender equality? This bill sends out a message that women are weak and can't really make it to mainstream politics without a crutch. So hey, instead of teaching them how to walk, let's distribute some fancy wheel chairs! Such a shame!

What needs to be enforced is nomination of candidates on the basis of merit. Irrespective of whether they are a man or woman. And if the so called 'education system' does its part, this should not be much of a problem, right? I know the solution isn't simple. But that's the whole point! Instead of looking for quick-fix remedies, we should be focusing on the bigger picture...

Mar 5, 2010

One of the newspapers featured a story on how celebs who endorse hockey have failed to turn up for the matches. I found it quite amusing. I mean, it's nice that the Hockey World Cup has got as much publicity as it has. But, dude! It's come like a month before the actual event. What did they expect?! People who are sports fanatics (like most men in my family) will follow any sport whatsoever, publicity notwithstanding. But non-sport people (like me) or even people committed to a particular game for ages, are not gonna develop an interest in hockey overnight! So holding Sehwag or PC responsible for its mediocre popularity is lame (if not funny)! And the argument that filmstars show up for IPL matches n not hockey ones is sooooo silly. Hello! Surely there's some difference between appearing in an ad for a product and owning a team?!

Though all this silly-ness apart, hockey IS our national game. Hope it gets its due!